Category: Coaching

Desperately Seeking Newness – Day 5

The book ‘The Paradox of Choice’ had a big impact on me this year. So many new concepts, ideas, and insights in it that really hit home. So, when its author, Barry Schwartz, agreed to be a guest on the podcast, it made my week. I would have the opportunity to get inside his mind a little, discover a bit more about his thought process and research for this book and his work in general. Exciting.

The interview was great. We could have talked for hours. One of the key learnings from it was surprising. As the conversation unfolded, the question of discovering brand new findings, never before uncovered, arose. It was one that intrigued me. How did Barry do this? And was it a key driver, or motivation, in his work.

The answer was unexpected. Barry outlined that his work on this book, and pretty much all his work throughout his 5 decades in the area of psychology and writing, was not to find something new. It was more to piece together existing research from others and create a story from the sum of these parts that help bring a different understanding from what’s already been created.

Inside my own mind, there was a long-held belief that all authors, psychologists, or thought leaders like Barry, were driven fully by breaking new ground when it came to ideas. They were searching for never before discovered territory of the mind that, once found, brings a new level of understanding to our daily lives and world. And that unless I had something very new to contribute, something profound, that had never been thought of before, it’s probably not worth sharing.

In coaching work, there is a concept of limiting beliefs. The work Nancy Kline has done in this area is brilliant and is well worth a look into. When coaching clients, very frequently the challenge of having limiting beliefs is the main roadblock preventing them achieving more and unlocking their potential. Identifying these and reversing them can have a huge impact. Just bringing awareness to these can be all that’s needed to start the change process.

In my talk with Barry Schwartz, he helped me realise (unexpectedly) that this search for newness was actually a limiting belief that was holding me back. Once it became obvious, it was so much easier to work around it.  Without this realization, I’d most likely not be writing this piece now.

What limiting beliefs are holding you back? Are you putting a ceiling on what you can achieve? It’s likely you have one (or many) but haven’t yet put a label on it. Doing so is the first step in removing it.

Till tomorrow, thanks for reading.

Rob


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Rob is a qualified Executive Coach (ICF) and has been Mentoring and Coaching over the last decade in various roles held during his career. In 2017, Rob launched the Rob of the Green Platform which hosts the 1% Better Podcast. Rob currently is a director of Project Management and Leadership Coaching at Dell in Cork, Ireland. Rob also publishes articles on productivity, leadership, goal setting, meditation, and other topics, like this one!

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Luggage or Baggage? The Power of Language.

When you go on holiday (or vacation if you’re from the USA), do you pack luggage? For a work trip, might you refer to it as baggage? Did you ever think about the subtle difference?

I remember this coming up during executive coaching training a few years back. I can’t exactly remember the discussion, the context, or who brought it up, but it was one of those moments where the power of language really hit home.

Baggage has a negative, or at best neutral, tone to it. Something you drag around. Probably a broken wheel or two or a dodgy handle. You can apply this to the everyday ‘stuff’ we carry around with us that doesn’t serve us well, like resentment, regret, disappointment, and such other clunky things that slow us down. All this can add up and drain our energy, if we choose to keep dragging it around with us all day, every day.

On the other hand, when you think luggage, there is a more optimistic and positive connotation. Luggage has that holiday vibe to it. You’re going places with luggage. No broken wheels here. Things are in order. There is a place for everything. You’re probably even leaving room in your case to bring back something new from the adventure. Parallel this to your mindset on any given day or the self-talk you have going on in your head. Luggage is upbeat, confident, and not sapping the energy from you near as much, if at all.

One of the many gifts I learned (and continue to learn) from developing my coaching skills, is how powerful words and language can be. Words by themselves are just a few letters assembled together. On the face of it, they shouldn’t hold so much power. Yet, as we’ve grown to derive meaning, leading to thoughts, and then emotions, from this language, we’re dealing with a very powerful thing. Developing a greater awareness of how this works, for myself, and when working with others, is a huge step forward, in the right direction. Once you’re more aware of it, you’re in a better place to do something about it.

What’s your default when it comes to baggage or luggage? How about other words you use in every day speak? Are there more positive versions of words you might use that could lead to a positive shift in your mindset?

My time is up. Hope this one made some sense.

Till tomorrow.
Rob


Rob is a qualified Executive Coach (ICF) and has been Mentoring and Coaching over the last decade in various roles held during his career. In 2017, Rob launched the Rob of the Green Platform which hosts the 1% Better Podcast. Rob currently is a director of Project Management and Leadership Coaching at Dell in Cork, Ireland. Rob also publishes articles on productivity, leadership, goal setting, meditation, and other topics, like this one!

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