William Pullen is a psychotherapist and lives in London and developed a specific type of psychotherapy which is a fusion of running and psychotherapy.
I connected with William after seeing his TEDx talk earlier this year and wanted to learn more about how this can help you get more than 1% Better.
Using Integrative Psychotherapy, William aims to facilitate wholeness between the feeling, behavioural, cognitive, and physiological levels of functioning – in other words the whole person. This is done in part through looking at aspects of the self that you may be unaware of and making them conscious.
A full summary of our broad ranging conversation includes:
- William hitting a low point in his career working in TV and Advertising
- Feeling disconnected in this world that was superficial
- The Fast life style was too much and it led to a meltdown
- Depression and sitting at home turning 40!
- Starting out running and taking incremental movement
- Ambitions early in life – always wanting to work with young people
- A nicer kinder William and a more aggressive ego driven William
- Sport and the ability to move is hotwired into people for healing
- Trigger points leading to the meltdown – the warning signs were there!
- A toxic relationship forcing many changes of shape and form!
- Love and the struggle that comes with it!
- The cultural change and how it’s impacted love!
- The survivor mentality and learning how to look after yourself
- The goal and driving force to the lifestyle
- Managing to control urges and using running
- Creating a running therapy program
- Empathy Runs emerging from couple counselling training
- The Empathy Muscle – making space for someone else’s opinion
- Agreeing to share the stage of life with others is at the heart of Empathy
- Relationship Counselling and learning how to create a dialogue to escape the tit for tat game
- Active listening & Empathy
How to do an Empathy Run?
- Find someone you trust and like
- Arrange to meet
- Decide who goes first & who listens
- At the end the listener repeats back what they heard!
- Giving someone the freedom to talk about whatever they want to talk about!
- And swap roles
- Running helps you get into a narrative flow
- There is no sense that you are trying to resolve something – it’s never the job of the listener to solve or resolve things!
- There are no expectations – that’s key!
- The importance of pausing – 0.4 seconds is the normal gap!
- How to develop the pause – and the challenge of doing it!
- Practicing the Pause!
- Feedback on Empathy Runs!
- Writing a Book – the story about this!
- Approaching Penguin and a program combined with this
- Living a more authentic life and writing a book about this – being uncomfortable about authenticity as writing about it!
- Authenticity & Authentometer!!
Book –Run for your life – https://amzn.to/2FzJEts
Book – DRT – https://amzn.to/2X2k770
TEDx Talk – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sq6393AreD4
Website – http://dynamicrunningtherapy.co.uk/
Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/williampullen/
Twitter – https://twitter.com/pullentherapy